14 May Miscarriages
Going through a miscarriage is a traumatic experience for anyone invested in a pregnancy, man or woman. However, there are certain parts of a miscarriage that is especially hard on a woman. Not only is the pain and physical loss singularly hers, women who miscarry often feel guilt on top of the grief, despite the point that the guilt is almost always undeserved. And, of course, the loss is exaggerated with a couple who are experiencing infertility issues.
Loss Before 20th Week of Pregnancy
A miscarriage is a loss of a pregnancy before the 20th week, although later miscarriages can occur. This occurs in about 10 percent to 20 percent of all pregnancies. Before that number scares you too much, however, note that most miscarriages occur without the woman even realizing she was pregnant. These occur very early in the pregnancy without any symptoms or only with symptoms that look like a heavier than typical menstrual flow.
The causes of a miscarriage so rarely have anything to do with a woman’s choices or behaviors that the guilt that comes with a miscarriage is wholly immaterial and undeserved.
The most common causes of a miscarriage are:
- A fertilized egg having an odd number of chromosomes – a random biological occurrence
- Various illnesses, including diabetes, that makes it harder for a woman to carry a fetus to term
- A serious injury (it is extremely unlikely that a minor injury contributes to a miscarriage at all)
- Various abnormalities in the fetus
- Abnormalities in the uterus
- Problems with the cervix (which a woman cannot do anything about)
What’s Not A Cause of Miscarrying?
Here are a few things that do NOT cause a miscarriage
- Normal physical exertion
- Having sex
- Taking properly prescribed medication
- Beverages (alcohol is certainly NOT recommended during pregnancy, but drinking alcohol does not cause a miscarriage)
Symptoms of a Miscarriage
- Severe cramping
- Spotting or bleeding
- Severe abdominal pain
Usually, the most severe complication is the point that one miscarriage puts a woman in a higher risk pool for another miscarriage. One miscarriage does not cause another but indicated the woman may be prone to miscarriages. The more immediate complication of a miscarriage is the need to remove all the tissues of a pregnancy from the uterus. It may require a medical procedure to do this, although it most often happens naturally.
The Emotional Toll
The emotional reaction to a miscarriage can be devastating. It is a true loss. It is painful to bear. With that in mind, while a miscarriage feels very private, a loss of this nature often requires a support team of close friends and family, perhaps short term counseling. If your grief is overwhelming, seek help. Don’t bear the trauma by yourself.